The Only Difference (that matters) Between a Yogi and a Military Officer

This may sound unlikely, but there’s actually only one fundamental difference between a yogi and an experienced military officer. After completing two decades of military service that has taken me around the world, I’ve finally come to realize why this is the case. Initially it may seem may paradoxical that a “peaceful” yogi and a combat tested military officer are so much alike, but as you will see there are more similarities than differences between these two life paths. Below are a few ...
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Stop confusing protection with imprisonment.

Remember that traumatic experience that ripped your heart to shreds 5, 10, 15 years ago? Well I’ve got some bad news — you’re still not over it. How can I tell? It’s pretty easy. It’s because your heart is hardened, like a prison cell— nothing gets in and nothing gets out. You might smile, help people, and be generally be considered a nice person, but that’s only because those things can be done without making yourself vulnerable to being hurt again. In order to protect yourself from futur...
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This isn’t the end. Keep going.

One day you’re going have a rude awakening that will completely shatter your reality. As part of the human experience, it’s not a matter of IF … it’s a matter of WHEN. It could be anything ranging from cancer, to a death in the family, to breaking up with your boyfriend. The event that shatters one’s reality differs from person to person, but what is similar is how it makes us feel in the process. Yes, there are the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance), ...
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Why some delay seeking justice.

Justice is not always straightforward. As a kid the process seemed clear when someone broke the rules, but in adulthood those same waters become swamp-like and difficult to navigate. Having coached hundreds of women over the years, I’m truly not surprised about the #METOO hashtag tsunami on social media. As a matter of fact, it’s long overdue. Sexual harassment and sexual assault are life-changing events that cause many women to question their self worth, often derailing audacious career traj...
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3 Reasons to Unplug from the Insanity

The noise is poisoning your life For possibly your entire life you have been completely bombarded with “advice”, “warnings”, and “news” in attempts for your family or the media to grab your attention like a screaming baby. It’s in your social feeds, on the T.V. and radio, in magazines and billboards …. it’s EVERYWHERE. You’ve been surrounded by it for so long in fact, that you probably barely even notice it. But you know what? That’s totally OK. Because each of us are on a journey to th...
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How to win a fight without throwing a single punch

No matter how much good is done in the world, trouble always seems to find a way into life. One inaccurate accusation or maybe a single deliberate false testimony is all it takes to shift your life focus to fighting for survival, justice, or truth. Regardless of your challenging circumstances, here are 3 steps to winning a fight without throwing a single punch. Step 1: Keep your cool Every life challenge has two conflicts that occur simultaneously: the external conflict / problem at ha...
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Approaching Cybernirvana: Oneness with the Web

The Internet is a virtual manifestation of something we each yearn for deep within our hearts and souls: Nirvana, which is the end of suffering and the ability to connect with and be one with all things. It may be challenging to consider realities not based in pain and fear, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Deep down we would rather live in a society where we lived in peace, a place where complete strangers could hug each other with the purest of intentions and say, "Hi! How can I help y...
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Design Thinking & the village of Wambuzi

A sailor and a doctor walk into a bar - no, it's not the beginning of a bad joke, it's actually the beginning of something quite beautiful. It was by sheer coincidence that I got to know my Zambian friend, Selemani.  He was looking for a table for his family in a crowded restaurant when I first saw him.  Noticing his struggle, I gestured to him to share our table and thankfully he accepted the offer.  Our personalities immediately clicked and I came to learn that he is a doctor who was raised...
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